About Me

Clinical

My work is relational, psychodynamic, and systems-oriented. This means relationships are the center of my work, I often revisit your early experiences of self-worth and attachment, and we will explore the interconnections between you and the broader society you live in. I borrow from traditional and experiential therapies to help you regulate your emotions, learn to hold yourself compassionately, heal wounds from trauma and invalidation, and to act from the clarity of your values, rather than your fears and insecurities.

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“If you have come here to help me you are wasting your time, but if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.”

― Lilla Watson

social location

I am a white queer settler living on unceded Duwamish lands, known as Seattle. I was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest on the occupied lands of the Upper Skagit peoples, but I’ve lived in the South and Midwest. After exiting the military, I spent almost a decade going to school and doing sex work as a single parent.

It was the organizing I did in my community of sex workers to increase safety and comradery that led me to the field of social work. I spend my free time with my children and my partner. I like to read, video-game, garden, and road-trip.

Education

Personal

I’m a sensitive, introverted gender-fluid person – I often feel like a little guy living in a giant woman’s body. I have ADHD and myths, symbolism, and storytelling are some of my special interests. 

I saw the Twin Towers burning on public access TV in my school. I went through puberty as a big girl at the peak of Y2K low rise jeans.  I got to experience the repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell as an active duty queer. I’ve traded sex for money and I survived higher education while raising children.

I am healing from/in capitalism, which is why I chose to open my own practice and honor a slower pace of life that my body requires. 

Stephanie
Not Stephanie